The Christmas-tree self-care technique

One cold and dark early November morning in 2016 I picked my phone off my nightstand. Perhaps I and a significant portion of Americans moved in sync that particular morning; laying in bed, glancing at the top news story, putting the phone down, pulling the covers over our heads, and feeling the despair roll in.Continue reading “The Christmas-tree self-care technique”

How to say what, when to talk vs. hitting send

Recently I received a voicemail about a business opportunity. The caller invited me to either call back or send them an email to set up a meeting. I called. It wasn’t as simple as the phone being closer than my computer. Certainly, in our smart-phone immersed world I could just as easily do either. CallingContinue reading “How to say what, when to talk vs. hitting send”

All the confidence of a gourmet meal gone cold… and other sh*t to work out.

There are lots of places in life where it seems I’ve created stumbling blocks for myself, or just not seen a thing all the way through. A quick run-down of projects outstanding and intentions gone astray: The Artist’s Way (Yeah, girl. It’s supposed to be a practice) Exercising in the morning (HAHAHAHAHA) The research articleContinue reading “All the confidence of a gourmet meal gone cold… and other sh*t to work out.”

From whence we came, squaring with history and sitting in gratitude (thanks, Sena)

It was either the time I was crouched behind a rust bucket of a car, hiding from a skinhead, in the parking lot of the goth club, or it was the time that a I was scurrying between tables with a bus pan, picking up pint glasses when a customer pinched my nipple ring throughContinue reading “From whence we came, squaring with history and sitting in gratitude (thanks, Sena)”

The Confrontation Obligation -or- Yes, you really do need to say it.

I can’t remember what it was exactly. Some perceived conflict between the other therapist and I. For story-telling purposes we’ll call her J-Diddy. There were only two then. I’m sure I was certain I was right. I’m sure I was certain J-Diddy was wrong. There was likely an ethical imperative to the situation (You know,Continue reading “The Confrontation Obligation -or- Yes, you really do need to say it.”

The TARDIS arrives, a Dr. Who metaphor on navigating healthy conflict

I’m sitting in a parking lot outside the Alamo movie theater waiting for Max’s friend’s Detective Pikachu birthday party to wrap up. I’ve been sitting in my car reading the first chapters of Patrick Lencioni’s book, The Advantage: Why Organizational Health Trumps Everything Else in Business. I started at Krispy Kreme with the intention ofContinue reading “The TARDIS arrives, a Dr. Who metaphor on navigating healthy conflict”

Week two of The Artist’s Way: On my first artist’s date and paying attention

In working the Artist’s Way, I have written my morning pages each day. I continue to ponder the privilege of uninterrupted time, something foreign to me and (I imagine) moms everywhere. The sticky-stuff in this week’s reading was on attention. There were other themes that author Julia Cameron devoted more time to, but those didn’tContinue reading “Week two of The Artist’s Way: On my first artist’s date and paying attention”

Between values, gender and identity development in kids (my rad kid especially)

We are parked before going into the Food Lion, my quick-witted fantastical child and I. I am trying to navigate the territory of self with my youngest, to support their exploration. I am explaining spectrums. I hold up my two hands. “Say this one, the one on the left, is all the way feminine andContinue reading “Between values, gender and identity development in kids (my rad kid especially)”

On being a “shadow-artist,” a beginner’s review of The Artist’s Way

I was delighted recently with my friend Sri Kodakalla, making space in herself and in the world for herself as an artist. I met Sri for the first time two or three years ago in the basement of The Jefferson music hall, at Charlottesville’s Goth Night. Somehow, in our introductions, we talked about creating artContinue reading “On being a “shadow-artist,” a beginner’s review of The Artist’s Way”