Elections lost and PTO fundraisers, deplorable.

I remember groaning back in 2016 and being so mad at Hillary Clinton. I could not believe she said “deplorable.” Could. Not. Believe. It. I was aghast that she thought that thought needed to come out of her mouth. Hearts and minds are important and, believe it or not, when you label and insult folks…

Welcome to my house: How I met the world from the comfort of my home.

We had moved for my graduate program. My family: irreverent, wickedly humorous, sci-fi/fantasy loving, non-religious, diversity-welcoming goofballs that we are found our selves in the South. My husband and I had grown up in the south of Virginia and Maryland, but not this kind of South. This was the openly racial-slur dropping, homophobic, gun-loving South…

When the world didn’t pause for my lack of discipline

I don’t really feel like writing, but that’s why it’s important now to make the effort. Today was full of half-formed ideas, articles I read, comments that resonated with me. Yet I’d much rather just not. I’d rather eat nachos and watch Netflix. Not that I have nachos. I’d settle for laying on the couch…

Outside of cages, the other side of righteous anger

Anger is: A natural response to injustice A transitory stage of grief Sometimes safer than sadness or vulnerability Considered a secondary emotion All of the above I find that when “all of the above” is offered on a multiple choice it is usually a safe bet. In fact, William Poundstone asserts in “Rock Paper Scissors:…

Exercising intention through Easter Eggs

When all the boys came to the yard, lured in by anticipation of milkshakes, they knew about Easter Eggs. They expected something good might happen. For those that have forgotten, or just didn’t have context for the expression, an Easter Egg is a delightful little surprise. Programmers often tuck them into video games. Rather than…

Leaving “bitch” behind

How many women’s relationship with the word “bitch” is a complicated one? I’d love to have a show of hands. The complexity of my relationship starts in adolescence, “Hey, bitches!” just as easily spilling out of my lips as, “Hey, girl!” Hugs, makeup, loud music, illicit parties, shoes to match the car (really). At times…

Is Vulnerability weakness or superpower?

What’s your superpower? I’ve got two kids. My daughter is a force of nature, a bundle of fearless energy. She has never met a stranger and would throw caution to the wind, but never had any caution to begin with. Her willingness to be all in all the time is her superpower. My son is…

PJ Philosophies Vol. 2

Subtitle: Making mistakes (shitty videos) 101 and something about compassion So I’m making mistakes. Huge, juvenile mistakes with this video thing. Mistakes like not being able to shoot in portrait mode and use the iPhone’s built in video editor. But! I guess I’m learning. I wish I knew how to add text to frames so…

PJ Philosophies Vol. 3

Herein I choke on my humility. I think sometimes you have to. Sometimes owning how f*ing wrong you were, to your very core, is essential to being accountable. I want more of that in the world. More accountability. So, I give unto you this video. It’s not beautiful. Both the quality and the content are…

PJ Philosophies vol. 1

Any moms watching? Moms know. Bedtime is the only time I really have that I’m not with my kids or at work. There were 4, seriously FOUR, previous attempts at this and a speech to my daughter about how loving mom as a mom is different than loving mom as a person (more on that…